Dec 14/14. I've done it, started the paperwork. I can't do it anymore. Every stroke in the pool, every stretch in the gym. every breath. Alzheimers. It has taken over my life, and now I am done. It is him or me and I pick me. I haev had him in St Mikes twice for respite and think it is my best choice. I have toured a number of others but in this community I think it the best choice for both of us. I like the manager, what she says and what she is trying to do. The staff I have seen ae gentle, kind and obviously very caring. The units are small, the rooms are airy and bright and each has their own bathroom. There is some recreation every day. And at home, he can spend hours in his bedroom jut putting about, visiting with his much loved kitty Willow. He often tells me is ready to go home, where ever that is, apparently it is not always here. He is quieter, has less energy, is sleeping about 8 or 9 hours at night now. More and more in his own world. So it is time. I am aware of the risk, but my plan is to move his things in and then over a week or two he and his staff will start to go there regularly: a game of shuffleboard and a coffee witht the guys. I will keep his regular support staff as long as I can, a few fewer hours each week as he gets acclimatized. so they can go out every day, out for a good walk, but then back there. Not here, not anymore.